Couples Therapy | Katy, TX
You Love Each Other. But Something Isn’t Working.
It’s not that you don’t care about each other. In fact, that’s often what makes this so painful. What feels exhausting is the sense that you keep ending up in the same place — the same argument, the same shutdown, the same silence that stretches longer than either of you intended. Conversations escalate quickly, or they stall out entirely. One of you may feel unheard or criticized. The other may feel misunderstood or blamed. Over time, it can start to feel less like a partnership and more like coexistence.
There may be hurt beneath the surface that neither of you quite knows how to name, let alone repair.
Working with me isn’t about determining who’s right. It’s about slowing down what’s happening between you, understanding the patterns that keep pulling you apart, and learning how to respond to each other in a way that actually rebuilds connection.
The Problem Isn’t the Argument. It’s the Cycle.
Most couples come in focused on the surface issue: Parenting. Intimacy. Money. Trust.
But beneath those topics is usually a predictable emotional cycle:
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One partner pursues. The other withdraws.
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One escalates. The other shuts down.
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Both feel alone.
Until that cycle is identified and interrupted, no communication strategy will stick.
That’s the work.
Couples I Work With Often:
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Feel stuck in repeating arguments they can’t resolve
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Are recovering from betrayal or secrecy
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Feel emotionally distant but still care deeply
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Are navigating parenthood or major life transitions
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Are unsure whether to repair or separate
You may look stable from the outside.
Inside the relationship, it feels fragile or tense.
My Approach:
Structured. Emotionally Focused. Direct.
In our work together, I’m not going to sit back silently while the same argument plays out. Until that cycle is identified and gently interrupted, new communication tools rarely take hold in a lasting way.
When one of you starts to escalate or shut down, we slow it down in real time. We look at what’s happening underneath the reaction — the fear, the hurt, the longing to feel understood.
I’ll help you identify the negative cycle that keeps pulling you apart and guide you in responding differently, even when it feels uncomfortable. This isn’t about surface-level communication tips. It’s about rebuilding emotional safety, restoring trust, and creating a connection that feels steady rather than fragile.
What This Process Looks Like
(& where it leads)
Couples therapy unfolds in stages. Each phase builds on the last, creating clarity, stability, and meaningful change.
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The First Phase: Clarity & Stabilization
We begin by identifying the negative cycle that keeps pulling you apart. Instead of focusing on who started it, we map how it unfolds — what each of you feels, what you fear, and how those reactions collide.
Most couples experience immediate relief here. You stop seeing each other as the problem and begin recognizing the pattern as the problem.
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The Second Phase: Interrupting the Cycle
Once we understand the pattern, we begin slowing it down in real time. You practice responding differently inside the session — with structure and guidance.
We work on:
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Reducing defensiveness and shutdown
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Expressing needs without escalation
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Repairing small ruptures before they become major ones
This is where emotional safety starts to rebuild.
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The Third Phase: Rebuilding & Strengthening
After the cycle softens, we focus on deeper repair and long-term stability.
This may include:
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Rebuilding trust after betrayal
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Restoring intimacy and affection
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Creating new agreements around conflict
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Strengthening emotional connection
By this stage, couples often notice arguments feel less volatile, conversations feel more productive, and connection feels more secure.
Not perfect — but different.
You Don’t Have to Keep Having the Same Argument.
If you’re looking for couples therapy in Katy, Texas or online marriage counseling across Texas, I offer a free 15-minute consultation so you can determine whether this work feels aligned.
Let’s begin the process of repair.